Your children only do and learn what you do, not what you tell them to do.
There is a special quality in children that they learn by watching because you must have seen that whatever you do, children very quickly copy it and learn it and parents, grandparents and other members of the house act as role models. do and through what they do he learns and inculcates them in his soul
The most important thing is that the people of the house always consider their actions as correct and create an image in their mind and brain accordingly and remember them throughout their life and they are brought up with the same thoughts and ideas. As you grow up, no matter how much you keep saying that it is good to do this or saying that you should not do it because it is wrong.
If you want a change in the behavior and reality of the children, then first of all the parents should bring about the same change in themselves. That change will come to the children automatically because the child will see that change every day and he will start doing that work himself.
For example, if you want to inculcate good food habits/Raw food habits or fruits eating foods or early morning Jain habit in children So first of all you will have to develop habits in yourself and if you are eating pizza burger and tell your children to eat fruits or eat home cooked food or you yourself are waking up at 10:00 and tell your children to wake up at 5:00 early. Wake up morning, there is a contradiction between your words and actions and the children will never listen to you.
The best example these days is that parents tell their children not to use mobile phones, not to play online games, and parents themselves remain busy on mobile phones all day long, so just imagine what thoughts come to the minds of children that you You yourself use your mobile all day long and keep giving us knowledge And children never consider it wrong to use mobile throughout the day. If your children use mobile less, first of all parents will have to stop using mobile, then later they will have to tell children not to use mobile, then after some time children will stop using mobile. Will stop doing.
The idea of writing this thought came to my mind because about seven-eight years ago, a woman was reading a book in Delhi Metro and a 10-11 year old child was also reading the book with her and the video of the woman went viral.
So the media found her and asked her that these days children are busy on mobile phones all day long and how is your child reading a book even in the metro, to which the woman replied that your children do what you do, right? Whatever you tell the child to do.
In the same way, when my son was born, when I lived with him, whatever work I used to do, my son also learned to do all the works like going to the park in the morning, doing puja, saying Ram-Ram, going to Gurudwara, doing yoga every day, when When I used to read my book, he also started reading with his book and sometimes while reading in the book, he used to ask, Papa, what was written in it, but he did not know how to read Hindi In that book which is chapter no. I used to count those things which were written so that he could learn counting. It had become such a habit of my son to go to Gurudwara that he used to tell me both in the morning and evening to go to Jai. Sometimes I did not want to go but my son insisted so we both We used to go every day when there were bhajan kirtans at Gurudwara. At that time my son also remembered the time and I knew how to refuse him even though I wanted to and because of that we used to go to Gurudwara every day.
I used to go for a park walk every day, so he also learned to go to the park with me every day and my son also used to go to the park every day and play there with the children or with me.